Thursday, October 22, 2015

Become You Review

Title: Become You
Author: Toneka R. Etienne, Ph.D.
Genre: Self-Help, Personal Development
Ready to create lasting transformation in your life? Become You reveals a practical lifestyle blueprint for the modern day woman. Begin your deep dive transformation by turning an honest, but loving mirror on your belief systems, habits, and spiritual life. This book will help you create a balanced lifestyle so that you can passionately pursue your goals and dreams without losing yourself in the process.

Book Excerpt

Pushing in is sometimes the only way out. I sat there with a huge lump in my throat. Why was this happening to me? I take pretty good care of myself. I mean I’m not a saint, but I at least try and eat healthy. Why would this be my diagnosis? Wait, she’s kidding, right? I don’t have diabetes, not me. The nurse practitioner showed me the results and proceeded to give me a prescription for a drug to stabilize blood sugar. She also gave me a prescription to pick up a blood glucose meter, a device to keep track of my blood sugar.I left the office with tears in my eyes, trying my best to remain strong. Once I got in my car, I let it go. 

I was shaking and crying like a baby. In an instant, my life had been turned upside down.
But after all 
the tears, when I allowed myself to be quiet and listen, a voice said, “Go deeper.”I knew what that meant because I had been asked to go deeper before. In the summer of 2007, my husband, Wesley, and I relocated to the metro Atlanta area with our eight month- old daughter. I spent the summer enjoying motherhood and getting acclimated to our new surroundings. One night, I was awakened around 3:00 a.m., an hour that would soon become the regular time for my spiritual encounters. I lay still. I don’t know how else to explain it, but I knew who it was that wanted my attention. He spoke to my spirit. It was as if He was preparing me. The time He was preparing me for was going to be hard and rough. I could feel it in my spirit. I was scared. But I knew that if I listened and remained close to Him, everything would be fine.

A winter season of my life started in the fall of 2007 and the spring would not arrive until July 2013, almost six years later. During that multi-year cycle, I hit the lowest points of my life, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. By the winter of 2007, I was at the doctor with heart palpitations, stress being the culprit. Full-time work, full-time doctoral pursuit, a young daughter, and another on the way leaves little time for a young married couple. My marriage was suffering tremendously, and I couldn’t see a way out of it. Then in 2010, I quit my job, a decision I made because the alternative might have sent me into a nervous breakdown. It was halftime; this was my chance to take it back into the locker room. I was getting my butt kicked out there! 

And it was in that moment that I started to go deep. I started to listen to those subtle nudges at 3:00 a.m. He would say things to me like, “Soften,” “Listen,” “Pray,” “Relax,”, and “Wait.” And I started to pay attention. He had been speaking to me through the world. I just hadn’t taken the time to listen. It was in those moments that the world started to come alive, and I was ushered into my purpose. My experiences were no longer the harsh realities of life. They were a catalyst for my own evolution.

By the spring of 2013, my spirit knew that winter was over. I shed my layers, closed the chapter, and for the next six months or so, I just enjoyed life. Then one evening in early 2014, I got the 3:00 a.m. wakeup call again. He said to me, “It’s time.” I didn’t know what that meant, but I shared it with Wesley and told him that I felt like God was ready to use me. In the summer of 2014, when I sat in the doctor’s office hearing my diagnosis, it all came back. “Go deeper.” This is it. This is what He wants me to do. After that diagnosis and a few days of self-pity, I pulled out the big guns. I opened the toolbox God planted in me during the winter and used it to heal myself. In the process, I realized that all of the gifts He instilled in me, the experiences I had, all came down to a system, a lifestyle, a way that I approach life. This is my purpose: to inspire, to heal, to listen, to support. It’s all encompassing; it requires all of you. But the transformation is deep, it’s authentic, it’s real, and it’s lasting. 
To get it, you have to go within. It’s your only way out.

There are shelves and shelves of self help and transformational books everywhere you turn. I bet you can buy a cheap book at the gas station or carwash with theories on positive thinking and the law of attraction.
What you won't find in most of those books are the action steps necessary to improve your life or the reasoning behind why these steps work.
Those other books give this genre a "woo-woo" nonsensical reputation.

Author Toneka Etienne not only breaks the improvement process into understandable chunks of actionable behaviors, she gives excellent examples from her own life. This book is the result of using the process.
She does not promise it will be quick or easy. It will go smoother if you trust and believe, but she even offers advice for those who are not totally convinced. She does an excellent job of covering mindset, attitude and perception.

I have read more books on this subject than the average person.
I've seen many that just repeat the same words as other best-selling or celebrity authors. This book is not just repetition. Toneka writes with openness and her personal style. You will get the most from this book when you follow along and do the exercises. Take her advice, go inward.

I did receive a copy of this book to review. I had no obligation to rate it highly.

Toneka R. Etienne, Ph.D., is a Psychologist, wife, mother, Huffington Post contributor, and creator at Toneka is a self-love advocate encouraging women to balance their daily
lives with the ambition to continually pursue their dreams.
Her calling is to fully support women as they call soulful purpose and intention into their life and business connected to their deepest and most authentic selves.
When she’s not holding sacred space for women’s transformation, Toneka can be found doing her favorite things: spending time with her husband and two daughters, traveling, reading, connecting with like-minded visionaries, and looking for divine inspiration.

I read a lot of self improvement and transformation books.
Many of them are the same information, often in the same words, as all the others.
This author has a fresh perspective and puts her own style into the process.
Her enthusiasm energizes each sentence and she gives personal examples of how following the action steps resulted in her own accomplishments and growth.
For those of you that feel this positive law of attraction thing is woo-woo and just a fad,
I would ask you to pick up the book with a slightly open mind and give the steps a try.
I believe you will see benefit for yourself if you don't fight it.
I did receive a copy to review but this would be a book I would buy for my library.

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